By Emily Lundy
We’ve known for a long time the question “How are you?” mostly does not mean someone really wants to know.
Because of this, some other women and I think we need a medical support group for women who need to vent about pains, quirks, knots, daily new occurrences to something never happening before. We are in no way trivializing or frivolously referring to chronic or serious life threatening disease. In limited fashion, we would like to mention the unmentionables and not see yawns on the listeners’ faces.
Think of our little group as the support one for women who cannot put an unwashed dish in the dishwasher.
Most working women find quickly the co-worker never to ask about health or the question, “How are you?” We’ve heard the answer repeated times.
Maybe as a group, someone would have what we do and know how to help, like duct tape can remove new warts.
President of this group would be the woman in labor the longest having a child. VP could be the woman with the most scars.
We might discuss seeing doctors who have actually suffered with our problem (attitude adjustment).
Pain would probably have to be defined, such as the worst kind to have.
Men say kidney stone passage is the worst, but since men can’t deliver children, they get no say so.
Many women will go with the headache, especially the migraine. I once had throbbing headaches I couldn’t treat with an over-the-counter medication because it was out of reach. The throbbing of such a cranium attack can lead to complete collapse, a trip to ER and a knock-out shot. That occurred only once when I was 23 trying to make chocolate candy dipped in parifin.
My headaches have decreased with age. Some will find shoulder pain earned from a ladder fall or some mysterious source requires surgery to be the most debilitating known. Bed rest, seclusion, and medication takes a week or more to let this person think of living again.
If a member of our group has surgery for some repair and says emphatically, “No matter how bad this became, never would I go through the surgery again,” don’t think for a moment you will be an exception.
Pain in both feet or back pain – which is worse. The pain stopping you from doing anything else will be the worst.
Therefore, we can add neck pain, knee pain, eye infections with pain, ear aches, the misery from an embedded end of a thorn tip in the bottom of the foot and no believers until one night, with determination, exasperation, a needle, and two firm thumbs help the tip fly to freedom.
Some pain gets relief easily, a tired gall bladder; and some doesn’t, such as knee replacement. Watch those walking with knee or back pain. These are heroes who go on with life, probably complaining little except to moan ever so often.